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bentherewonthat) wrote2013-05-06 02:54 pm
bentherewonthat) wrote2013-05-06 02:54 pm
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Talking about why Ben is the worst boyfriend is one of my favorite topics, so I decided to actually make a post about it in his journal. Behold: A short essay on why you should never date Ben ever. Sorry Yata. ):
OKAY SO in camp Ben likes to tell people about how famous and great he is. Usually no one ever actually believes him or cares. But he is actually extremely famous where he's from and that means he has a lot of admirers that range from fangirls to murderous villains. Also I am just going to note here that while Ben likes to brag about the fame and the perks it brings, he actually doesn't really like it and wishes that his identity was still a secret. Becoming well known put a lot of added pressure onto him and negatively impacted his personal life, which plays into the bad boyfriend deal.
Anyway let me further address the two main reasons why getting into a relationship with Ben is a Bad Idea.
He is very self-absorbed. It's his main flaw, and while he can set that aside when the time really calls for it, his default setting is ~ME~. He'll put what he wants before anyone else and when people point out he's being a douchebag he just gets mad or the point goes right over his head. I don't think I really have to point out why a mindset like this is bad in a relationship. And, like I said, he does realize he's being an asshole a lot of the time and apologizes for it, but this has been a reoccurring problem since day one and it's definitely a part of him that won't go away. He's my other Rachel Berry.
He puts his job first all the time. And okay, saving the world is kind of pretty important! But he isn't the only person who can save the day. There is in fact a group of intergalactic... well, cops? I guess. Think of the Green Lantern Corp. Ben's actually a member of it, although he doesn't actually work too closely with the Plumbers until Omniverse (and that's mostly because Kevin and Gwen temporary retire from the hero business to have normal lives for a while). So basically the Plumbers can take care of stuff, and Kevin and Gwen could just go without Ben to save the day as well. And it's not even a case of BUT BEN'S THE STRONGEST HE HAS TO DO IT too since Gwen is actually the most powerful being on their planet. So every now and then something attacks and Ben is like, "I must save the day," and everyone else is just, "Dude they try to take over the world like every week, chill out and spend time with your girlfriend." But Ben has the mindset that he has to be involved with everything ever because it's what ~heroes do~ which of course means less time to actually do, you know, couple stuff.
To really drive the point home with this I am going to give three canon examples of shit Ben has pulled that'll make you go HOLY SHIT JULIE HAD THE PATIENCE OF A SAINT. Julie is, btw, Ben's ex-girlfriend who he dated for the majority of the TV show. She is a professional tennis player, which means that she also had a pretty busy schedule like Ben does, but she understood the importance of spending time with your significant other and actually went out of her way to be with him. Since she's not an asshole.
1. Okay this one really shows both the self-absorbed thing and constantly putting his job first one. Julie was competing in like, some sort of championship title? I can't remember what it exactly was but basically it was super important to her. At the same time as the match, a movie Ben really wanted to see came out and a group of bad guys were up to something. Instead of listening to his friends and dealing with that after the match, Ben uses the Omnitrix to be in three places at once. When it gets revealed what he had done, everyone tells him to fuck off and leaves.
2. So Elena was a childhood friend of Ben's who unfortunately became merged with nanochip technology and it screwed with her. In one of the episodes she disguises herself as Julie and acts like the ~perfect girlfriend~ to Ben. Gwen immediately can tell something is wrong and she and Kevin investigate. Ben, however, CAN'T GODDAMN TELL SOMEONE IS IMPERSONATING HIS GIRLFRIEND??? It wasn't even a case of her acting just like Julie because she didn't even try to be convincing and you could tell after five seconds something was wrong. And when the reveal occurs Ben is completely shocked.
3. This is when Julie basically gets tired of his shit. She called him to talk but he was playing a video game. He had gamer rage and the stuff he said sounded a lot like a very harsh breakup. Julie, thinking she was just rudely dumped via phone call obviously did not want to talk to him after. Now this is a misunderstanding that could easily be solved except Ben did not attempt to contact her at all afterwards. The next time he sees Julie a lot of time has passed by. I guess she was doing tennis stuff out of country cause she returns with a new French boyfriend. Ben is obviously really shocked since he had no idea they... broke up... And then he tries to make it up to her but Julie basically tells him that she's done with him and he needs to grow up. At the end of the episode they do at least become friends again and Julie accidentally gets engaged to him through alien custom but yeah she makes it clear that she will no longer deal with his problems on a romantic level.
So yes in conclusion Ben is a jerk don't date him.
OKAY SO in camp Ben likes to tell people about how famous and great he is. Usually no one ever actually believes him or cares. But he is actually extremely famous where he's from and that means he has a lot of admirers that range from fangirls to murderous villains. Also I am just going to note here that while Ben likes to brag about the fame and the perks it brings, he actually doesn't really like it and wishes that his identity was still a secret. Becoming well known put a lot of added pressure onto him and negatively impacted his personal life, which plays into the bad boyfriend deal.
Anyway let me further address the two main reasons why getting into a relationship with Ben is a Bad Idea.
He is very self-absorbed. It's his main flaw, and while he can set that aside when the time really calls for it, his default setting is ~ME~. He'll put what he wants before anyone else and when people point out he's being a douchebag he just gets mad or the point goes right over his head. I don't think I really have to point out why a mindset like this is bad in a relationship. And, like I said, he does realize he's being an asshole a lot of the time and apologizes for it, but this has been a reoccurring problem since day one and it's definitely a part of him that won't go away. He's my other Rachel Berry.
He puts his job first all the time. And okay, saving the world is kind of pretty important! But he isn't the only person who can save the day. There is in fact a group of intergalactic... well, cops? I guess. Think of the Green Lantern Corp. Ben's actually a member of it, although he doesn't actually work too closely with the Plumbers until Omniverse (and that's mostly because Kevin and Gwen temporary retire from the hero business to have normal lives for a while). So basically the Plumbers can take care of stuff, and Kevin and Gwen could just go without Ben to save the day as well. And it's not even a case of BUT BEN'S THE STRONGEST HE HAS TO DO IT too since Gwen is actually the most powerful being on their planet. So every now and then something attacks and Ben is like, "I must save the day," and everyone else is just, "Dude they try to take over the world like every week, chill out and spend time with your girlfriend." But Ben has the mindset that he has to be involved with everything ever because it's what ~heroes do~ which of course means less time to actually do, you know, couple stuff.
To really drive the point home with this I am going to give three canon examples of shit Ben has pulled that'll make you go HOLY SHIT JULIE HAD THE PATIENCE OF A SAINT. Julie is, btw, Ben's ex-girlfriend who he dated for the majority of the TV show. She is a professional tennis player, which means that she also had a pretty busy schedule like Ben does, but she understood the importance of spending time with your significant other and actually went out of her way to be with him. Since she's not an asshole.
1. Okay this one really shows both the self-absorbed thing and constantly putting his job first one. Julie was competing in like, some sort of championship title? I can't remember what it exactly was but basically it was super important to her. At the same time as the match, a movie Ben really wanted to see came out and a group of bad guys were up to something. Instead of listening to his friends and dealing with that after the match, Ben uses the Omnitrix to be in three places at once. When it gets revealed what he had done, everyone tells him to fuck off and leaves.
2. So Elena was a childhood friend of Ben's who unfortunately became merged with nanochip technology and it screwed with her. In one of the episodes she disguises herself as Julie and acts like the ~perfect girlfriend~ to Ben. Gwen immediately can tell something is wrong and she and Kevin investigate. Ben, however, CAN'T GODDAMN TELL SOMEONE IS IMPERSONATING HIS GIRLFRIEND??? It wasn't even a case of her acting just like Julie because she didn't even try to be convincing and you could tell after five seconds something was wrong. And when the reveal occurs Ben is completely shocked.
3. This is when Julie basically gets tired of his shit. She called him to talk but he was playing a video game. He had gamer rage and the stuff he said sounded a lot like a very harsh breakup. Julie, thinking she was just rudely dumped via phone call obviously did not want to talk to him after. Now this is a misunderstanding that could easily be solved except Ben did not attempt to contact her at all afterwards. The next time he sees Julie a lot of time has passed by. I guess she was doing tennis stuff out of country cause she returns with a new French boyfriend. Ben is obviously really shocked since he had no idea they... broke up... And then he tries to make it up to her but Julie basically tells him that she's done with him and he needs to grow up. At the end of the episode they do at least become friends again and Julie accidentally gets engaged to him through alien custom but yeah she makes it clear that she will no longer deal with his problems on a romantic level.
So yes in conclusion Ben is a jerk don't date him.
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